How to tell if your baby mama still loves you: Main signs
How to tell if your baby mama still loves you can be tricky because relationships bring together two people with different lifestyles. Even if you are deeply in love, she may be stuck in the past or have moved on to something often more evident after having a child. Many men live unaware that the relationship has shifted. Still, with keen observation, you can spot the signs your baby mama is over you psychologically or whether her heart is still with you.
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Key takeaways
- A baby mama refers to the mother of your child outside of marriage.
- It is usually easy to sense when one partner is no longer interested, but interpreting these signs accurately can be tricky.
- Many men assume the relationship is fine after a child is born, only to realize the connection has faded later.
- Some baby mamas may lose interest and shift their focus to their own life and the child's well-being.
- There are clear signs to help you determine if your baby mama still loves you—you need to observe closely.
How to tell if your baby mama still loves you
The most asked question is whether or not the baby changes anything in the relationship, and the answer is a definite "Yes." However, some changes arise, especially on the side of the lady. It gets complicated when sideshows and conflict replace the previous gestures of love or affection. To ascertain if your baby mama still wants you, here are some signs to watch out for:
1. She starts calling you more often
The essence of having a relationship in the first place is to have healthy communication and companionship. When the conversation gets dim after some time, there is a problem and trouble brewing. However, when your baby mama calls to check on you more often than before, that is a sign that she still wants you.
2. Starts acknowledging you as her baby daddy
Some signs are too obvious to associate with sincere affection. However, the reality is that appreciating him and admitting that "he is my baby daddy" among others means a big deal. When she respects you and appreciates your effort, the love candle gets livelier and shines brighter.
3. She starts asking for more time with you
If she asks you to stay around a little bit longer, then it is evident that your child's mother still loves you. Distance is the biggest enemy in a fight, and has been translated as widening a wedge. However, you can join the dots when she wants you around more than usual and respond to her signals effectively.
4. She starts being possessive
When your baby mama starts gaining more interests, the first behaviour change is that she will begin being possessive and want you only to sing her tune. If you guys had fought for some time to the extent of pulling the trigger, then it's time to get back with your baby mama. Sometimes, she may be unable to say it, but this is a sign that she wants and loves you.
5. When she starts to leave "I love you" messages
When she starts confessing her love in texts through WhatsApp and chat platforms, there is no other proof to wait for. Even if the last time you guys shared the sweet words, "I Love You," was a long time ago, you ought to understand that she confesses her affection when you notice a change in her communication.
Signs of a jealous baby mama
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In other instances, some actions show your baby mama is really into you to the point of developing jealousy. While most people will misinterpret this as clingy and too demanding, it means she wants you for herself and herself alone. Here are signs that will tell you she is jealous:
1. Loses her cool whenever she sees you texting
Well, ladies can be too possessive of what they believe is theirs. She will sense danger whenever she feels your love for her is being exchanged with another woman. Sometimes, these feelings are not founded on anything tangible, but she will fight back because her instincts sense danger.
2. She starts to get annoyed by some of your behaviours
Some behaviors she will feel uncomfortable about include coming to the house late or disliking some of the posts on your social media. Well, it is not that she doesn't like you being in your best, but she can't take the fact that someone else may spot you outside there.
3. Starts questioning about some of your friends and their intentions
The extent of jealousy for baby mamas is far-fetched. Even though she knows your friends from long ago, comprising both gents and ladies, these people become bothersome if they take any additional attention that could be channelled to her. Do not be surprised when she asks you about your whereabouts with your friends. It only means she is jealous.
4. Starts calling you irregularly
We mentioned that her calling you signifies she wants you back. However, she may flip to the extreme side and start making calls for unjustifiable reasons. For instance, she may call you at short intervals while at work or away on official duty to confirm that you are there and not some other place with someone else.
5. She starts demanding extras of everything from you
You may have devoted just enough time to share with her and still manage to attend to other things like work. However, if she starts asking about your work hours, spends more time over the weekends, and gives more compliments whenever she does anything small, then this is a sign that she is super jealous.
Signs your baby mama wants you back
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After breaking up, most couples hang around for some time, while others move on. However, you should be able to read signs or pointers that indicate your baby mama may not just be over you yet and wants the father of her child back. Here are some signs to watch out for:
1. She is more comfortable when around you
You will notice a sudden change in how she behaves around you or when you visit. Unlike when it was tense, and she looked stiff after the breakup, this time, she will even suggest things you wouldn't envision between the two of you ever again.
2. She talks about how amazing you are
She will start sounding like she is seeing you for the first time and cannot take her eyes off you. She will begin to compliment you whenever you do something small or make any effort. If you are interested, this is when you can get your baby mama to fall in love with you again.
3. She still refers to herself as part of you
After breaking up, you guys could have parted ways angry and unhappy. However, do not be surprised when you notice unexpected behaviours from your baby mama. She may start suggesting ideas like going to meet your family and friends. For instance, if she asks to accompany you to your sister's graduation or a family event, then it is clear she still wants you back.
4. She reminds you of the good times you had together
Nostalgia is the best way to rekindle a dying romance. Your baby mama may use this weapon to lure you back to be with her. There are moments you appreciate about the two of you, which may suggest you reconsider your options about her.
5. She suddenly starts being your closest friend
It is a rare thing for someone who once hated you for ruining her life to start getting closer and getting more concerned about your affairs.
Well, this is not a wonder but a sign of renewed interest and affection from your baby mama. Whenever you spot any unusual closeness or compliments from her friends, it's a sign that she wants you back again.
6. Her friends become more indulgent and concerned about you
When she leaves, her friends often cut back any relations they had with you. However, some gestures are too good to be true, especially when the friends of your baby mama start getting closer to you.
They will leave you messages or tell you how your baby mama is doing to get your attention redirected to her. It is a sign that she wants you back and is just using her friends as the gateway, especially if you were on good terms with them.
FAQs
- Do baby mommas get jealous? Yes, many do, especially if they still have feelings for you or fear losing you to someone else.
- What causes baby mama drama? It can result from unresolved feelings, poor communication, jealousy, or disagreements about co-parenting.
- How to get your baby mama to love you again? Show respect, communicate openly, be consistent in your actions, and rebuild trust over time.
- How to fix a broken relationship with your baby mama? Address past issues honestly, prioritise co-parenting harmony, and spend quality time together without unnecessary conflict.
- What are the signs of a cheating baby mama? These may include secrecy with her phone, emotional distance, and reduced communication.
- What are 5 alarming signs he's not over his baby mama? He compares you to her, defends her constantly, maintains emotional intimacy, talks about her often, or hides communication with her.
- How to tell if your baby mama still loves you during or after a breakup? Look for increased contact, nostalgia about your past, emotional support, or possessiveness even after separation.
- How to tell if a man still has feelings for his baby mama? Notice if he talks about her often, prioritises her over others, or maintains emotional attachment.
It is sometimes difficult to know whether someone still loves you, especially after you broke up for reasons so serious, such as a child. However, we have identified ideas and tips on how to tell if your baby mama still loves you. If you spot one, two, three, or any of these signs, it is not a lie that she wants you back in her life. It is up to you to decide whether or not you will reconsider and give her a second or third chance.
Tuko.co.ke shared an interesting article with happy anniversary wishes for your sister and brother-in-law. Celebrating your sister and brother-in-law's anniversary is a great way to show your love and appreciation for them.
It's a special way to recognize their commitment to each other, celebrate their progress together, and remind them of the joy and happiness that comes with being married. Today, you can thank them for being such an essential part of your life, let them know how much you appreciate their relationship, and show them how much you care.
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