Woman Shares Troubling Experience of Having Two Private Parts: "It's Not Child's Play"

• Rodz Rotheli lived most of her life hiding a truth so rare, it exists in just one in millions: born with both male and female anatomy
• Fear of rejection kept her silent, even as it quietly shaped every relationship and moment of self-discovery
• Now, she's breaking that silence to reclaim her story and offer hope to anyone who’s ever felt different, unseen or unloved

A woman named Rodz Rotheli has opened up to the world about living with a rare congenital condition that led to a lifetime of secrecy, fear, and ultimately, self-acceptance.

In a deeply personal and courageous revelation on TikTok, she disclosed that she had kept the story hidden from everyone for most of her life.

Why Rotheli kept her sexuality secret

She clarified that she did not conceal the information because she was ashamed of who she is, but because she was afraid of what people might think.

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Rodz was born with a rare intersex condition, medically referred to as hermaphroditism, meaning she was born with both male and female sexual characteristics.

Though extremely rare, affecting perhaps one in several million births, it is a reality for a small but significant number of people worldwide.

"I didn’t understand what made me different growing up. I just knew I had to keep it a secret," Rotheli recounted.

Rotheli's struggles with having 2 private parts

She added that doctors told her parents what to expect and did everything they could to help her live a normal life.

But nothing prepares one for the way the world sees difference as navigating childhood and adolescence came with unique and painful challenges.

School was difficult, but locker rooms were worse. Rotheli says they became "a master at hiding physically, emotionally, socially."

Why Rotheli opened up

Intimacy and relationships were avoided out of fear that the truth would lead to rejection.

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Yet through years of therapy, medical consultation, and connection with others living similar lives, Rotheli has found peace.

"This condition doesn’t define me," she said. "I’ve spent years learning about myself medically, emotionally, and psychologically. I’ve learned to accept my body for what it is, not what society says it should be."

Rotheli says the decision to come forward now isn’t about seeking sympathy or attention but about honesty, healing, and helping others feel less alone.

Rotheli accepted her fate

She reiterated that she chose to speak openly because she wants to give others the courage to be themselves, whatever their differences may be.

"We are more than our bodies. We are the stories we choose to tell."

Her brave disclosure adds to the growing conversation around intersex identity, acceptance, and the broader spectrum of human biology.

By stepping into the light, Rodz Rotheli offers a beacon of hope for others who have spent too long hiding in the shadows.

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Netizens praise Rotheli's courage

Rotheli's vulnerability touched the hearts of many netizens, and as many encouraged her, others also shared their experiences, and many also sought advice on how to support their loved ones with a similar condition.

Normbuesow said:

"Can you tell me more? My child is 19 months old same issue. I want to know how I can support her."

Priscilla said:

"Are you looking to have surgery, honey? I’m more than willing to help raise funds 😔, you should never have to feel this way. I’m sorry."

dizzylizzy said:

"Thank you for sharing. I have heard of a hermaphrodite but never met one until now. Pleased to meet you. Have a great day and live your life to the fullest. You are okay."

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Kenya is among the nations that have adopted the intersex people's identity into law, offering a lifeline for the individuals.

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Over the years, most Kenyan tribes have branded people living with intersex conditions as taboo cases.

Others considered them to have an abnormality or some deficiencies within their bodies, which led to almost all of them hiding from the public due to the stereotypes attached to them.

For this reason, most of them could not be accounted for as they do not give correct details due to stigmatisation.

Racheal Nyaguthie, HoD Human Interest, added the section on netizens praising Rotheli's courage.

Source: TUKO.co.ke